In this weird world that is the blogosphere, deciding what to (and what not to) share is not an easy task. Well, I suppose it could be, but it’s not easy for me. I want to be open about my thoughts and feelings but sometimes, actually a lot of the time, I wonder “does anyone other than my parents really care what I say?” Don’t answer that question…
I go through high-highs and low-lows in life, as I know everyone does. I also write about a lot of them on this blog (here, here, here). As I’m maturing and growing and all that good stuff, I’m realizing more and more that I want to be relatable but not overbearing. By relatable, I mean I want to share the good and the bad. By not overbearing, I mean I don’t want to come across as complaining and venting.
The tough part for me is finding that middle ground.
It would be easy to talk about things solely after the fact (look, I got a job! Look, I healed my gut!) but I believe that being authentic involves not masking problems. This is not to say I’m going to start sharing every little thought as it comes, because a) can you say exhausting? and b) seriously, even my parents don’t care that much. I’m more referring to writing in a casual, open way, like I’m speaking with a friend. Because, I consider any readers to be my friends. I would never pretend things are great when they aren’t.
I understand this method of personal blogging isn’t for everyone and there CAN BE a happy medium (<–my goal, but the fact that I’m writing and sharing this post shows I’m obviously not there yet lol). There’s not a right or wrong way to approach this topic but I think it’s admirable when people acknowledge and admit struggles and successes. For example, I could share more about the highs and lows of my post-grad life because, to say it’s an emotional rollercoaster is an understatement. On the contrary, because I’m young, in a weird interim stage of life and relatively inexperienced, I struggle with finding merit and validity in my words.
Maybe this really is an age thing. Maybe in two or three years I’ll be able to better gauge what reflections are worth sharing and what are just the crazy
hormonal thoughts of a young 20-something. Sometimes I’m better at integrating “valuable” content within my posts, but other times (um, hello) I just ramble. Hopefully I can combine both types of writing, because I believe each serves a purpose. It seems to be a constant work in progress for me! Although I don’t mind the challenge.
Phew. That’s a lot of thinking out loud without a concrete conclusion, huh? Sorry for the lack of photos. I seriously wonder if people, perhaps older or in a different stage, read and think “man, this girl needs to calm down.” I’ll go ahead and chalk this one up to young adulthood.
To summarize: I value honesty. I will never not be honest on my blog, but I also want to hone in on what is truly important and worth your time. I hope you stick with me on my journey :)
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Bloggers: how do you decide what feelings/experiences are worth sharing?
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Thank you to Amanda for hosting Thinking Out Loud!