If you’ve read any one of my posts you’d know that my family is the most important thing to me. We are all really close and spend more time together than most families/people I know. I like it that way and don’t want it to change. But after living on my own for three years I’d be remiss if I didn’t mention the readjustment to home life. A readjustment period exists, for both parents and students.
Admittedly, my readjustment is unique and not across-the-board for college students. While I don’t get “nagged” for stereotypical things (I have job, I don’t drink and I go to bed the same time as my parents #truelife), I still need reminders that I can’t and shouldn’t be as “selfish” as I am at school.
*These are by no means complaints or significant changes, just observations.*
My schedule/time is not always my own. When I’m at school, “I DO WHAT I WANT” (said in a deep, tough guy voice). For example, I eat dinner when I’m hungry, pick my daily activities on a whim and can choose to say “yes” or “no” to calendar invites. At home, we eat family dinners (which I love) when everyone gets home for the day. Sometimes that happens later than my hangry self would like and/or it’s not what I would pick to eat.
Additionally, I sometimes have to tag along to already scheduled events and obligations. There have been a few times when I’ve felt like a high school student because I was being told what to do, either literally or via “I’m disappointed in you’s.” I’ve had to rearrange plans to do certain family things, some of which I protested. Selfish much? I fully support the notion “I live under your roof, I will obey your rules” but a reminder never hurts.
Chores are a must. I’m pretty good at certain household chores (dishes are my thing) but laundry and typical cleaning stuff? Fo’get about it. I can’t and shouldn’t just do my own laundry and that be “enough.” Luckily, my room is the only room on the second level of our house so my bedroom mess goes unseen.
I have to share my food.
JOEY EMILY, DOESN’T SHARE FOOD. Please tell me you understand my reference. No, I don’t have to pay for groceries while I’m home but I often forget that other people can open the fridge and grab what they want.
Money (still) doesn’t grow on trees. After freshman year I had some weird assumption that my family would pay for everything when I was home. HA! While I’m fortunate enough to get some special treatment, I still pay for my own “extras.” I work a lot during the school year so I do feel good about buying things on my own.
I can’t always nap in peace. This was a big challenge at first but I’ve persevered. Just had to end with a joke ;)
Honestly, 85% of the time I feel relaxed and normal when I’m home. Good food, a loving family and nights of Jeopardy games will do that to ya! However, there some little and silly challenges I’ve experienced over the years. I love being at home, which I know is something not everyone says. I value both my family time and my leisure time so it’s just a matter of balancing the two.