This is written in true Thinking Out Loud fashion. I’m not too sure if this post makes sense or if I successfully made my point. It’s just something I’ve been thinking about lately. I’m curious to hear your thoughts so please chime in and feel free to disagree- I could be off base here.
For every article about losing weight, staying motivated and eating clean, there is one about loving your body, resting and eating in moderation. Our bodies seem to always be the talk of the town. Am I right or am I right?
Now, I fully understand that by writing about this I’m somewhat countering my argument, but stick with me.
I feel like in the past few years the topic of body image has exploded. It’s in every magazine, on every blog, in TV shows and movies. Everyone wants to voice their opinion and, while there’s no shame in that, it’s sad that this is still a topic of discussion. It’s sad that we have to read and write posts about how to love our bodies and be happy. It’s sad that we are so prone to looking for answers outside of ourselves. It’s sad that we talk about our bodies and wanting to “tone up” more than we talk about actual events or personal happenings.
But it makes sense; negative body image is something we all battle, whether we admit it or not. And as far as we have come in the blogging community, media and in society in general, we have a long way to go…especially in daily conversations with friends and family. ***Side note: Eating disorders and disordered eating are unfortunately common, but for the purpose of this post I’m not referring to those topics.
Rough days are normal. What’s not normal is the need to talk or think about it 24/7. Why can’t we just not always think about our bodies? If we are healthy and happy shouldn’t that be enough?
One of the reasons I don’t talk about this too often is because I don’t want to add fuel to the fire. I don’t want to be just another person telling you to “love your body.” One million people telling you that will never change how you feel. I wish it was that simple, but it’s not. However my “silence” doesn’t mean it’s something I’m not passionate about…quite the opposite actually. I want everyone to feel happy and proud in their skin and I try to “practice what I preach” in life and on this blog (actually I try not to preach at all and do my thing, but that’s a topic for another day). Yet by writing about it for no reason I often feel like I’m just restating the obvious and making people (even myself) think about their appearance when they weren’t in the first place. Does that make sense? There are times when I do think about body image/related topics and, in that case, I may find the experience worth sharing.
Not to discredit any of the body positive lists or how-to’s out there OR to say they don’t have value (they can be extremely helpful for some people), but I enjoy reading more reflective, personal posts that have a “bigger meaning”. Check out Hayley’s blog– she’s one of my favorites. Instead of telling me what to do, show me. Those are the posts I value and learn from. Maybe I should be more open to the how-to and generic posts but, again, lists can only do so much. Change happens from within.
Again, by no means am I saying those posts are insignificant, but I’m more concerned with the reason behind it. It’s one of those “speak if only necessary and kind” situations.
I’ll end with a crazy proposition: instead of always talking about either of the two extremes (weight loss/toning up vs. loving your body), let’s just live and see where that takes us. Maybe, just maybe, it could instill change for the better. That’s what I’ll be trying to do over here.
Who’s with me?