This is that rambling life post I decided to postpone from last week until today. A little self-reflection on my experience this summer in the form of some thinking out loud. Thanks, Amanda!
Successes, challenges and setbacks are very personal. For example, running a sub 8 minute mile would be a huge success for me, but it may be considered slow for you. Taking on a new role or job may be a challenge for you, when it’s something I actively and excitedly seek out, not necessarily the case, just an example. Regardless, it’s all relative, and what we each deem a success or an accomplishment is deserving of that title.
And, because I don’t like reading preachy blog posts (aka posts without blogger self-reflection) and I’m 20 years old so what the heck do I know, let’s get real…
As I’m sure you know (considering I write about it every day), this summer has been a challenge for me…in the best way possible. However, I
am was somewhat embarrassed to label it as such when I see my peers are studying abroad for semesters, living thousands of miles away from their families year-round, traveling the world, and pretty much doing well on their own. What does my little two month New York City experience have against those things? Nothing, I thought.
Even though I jokingly refer to this summer as “study abroad,” in reality, it was just as big of a change for me. So what if I was still in America? This was a new environment, culture, dynamic, job, home, etc. Sure people speak English here (you’d be surprised though) and I can read road signs, but everything else was unfamiliar to me and I had to adjust. The fact that I did so is something I am proud of…something I want to openly be proud of.
I think there’s a big difference between bragging and sharing our successes. I don’t think we should actively seek attention, but it’s not a crime to be happy for our achievements, especially if it was a challenge to get there. Yes, I realize I’m actively seeking attention by writing about it on my blog, but go along with it. Whether your personal victory is trying a new food, exercising more, exercising less, starting a new job, cutting back on spending, etc., it’s important to keep it in context with YOUR life. Not your best friend’s life. Not that blogger’s life you *think* you know all about. Not some societal standard. Your life.
It’s natural to compare and strive to be the best (admittedly still working on this), but there are no quantifiable standards. You define your success, just like I define mine. My successes this summer ranged from living more spontaneously to not getting grossed out by holding the poles on the subway (admittedly still working on this too).
It’s been rewarding and refreshing to not feel accountable to anyone else’s standards and I’m hopeful that this trend will continue.
What was your latest and greatest success? Please share!