Thanks for always letting me Think Out Loud, Amanda!
Confession: as happy as I am in this stage of my life, I can’t help but worry about the future. I think that’s common, right? Last week with attending a wedding and spending time with older cousins, those worries and doubts came in.
Will I get married? What if I don’t find someone? Will I have kids? Where will I work? What if I don’t find a job? I have no idea.
I know that I’m young, but I feel like the next 5-10 years are so stereotypically significant. Key word: stereotypically. Nowhere is there a handbook that says you have to fall in love and get married by a certain age. Nowhere does it say that you have to love your first job. Nowhere does it say that you have to “thrive” in this time of your life.
Things will happen when they happen and constantly waiting for the next thing or the next stage won’t do me any good.
Also, 5-10 years ago, I could never have predicted what my life would be like today. I remember worrying about so many things that seem completely insignificant now. I look back and realize how much I have changed and so many things that I could have never foreseen happening.
It’s hard to live in the moment. To live in your current stage of life. To not be concerned about the future. But I want to….I’m trying to. Trying to take each day for what it is and not always think about next year. Or at least, not worry about it. (I can’t help but think about it :))
As much as I want answers about the future, my life is pretty good now. I have faith that I will eventually end up where I’m supposed to be. The unknown it hard, but the wait will be worth it.
No questions, just thoughts.
Brie @ Lean, Clean, & Brie says
I completely agree. I always worry about the future and wonder where my life will be five or ten years from now. I always try to remember that everything will turn out in the end and even if I don’t fit in with the stereotype it is completely okay as long as I am enjoying where I am in life.
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I think so many people our age feel like this and worry about life post-college. So many options and choices that are overwhelming.
Rebecca @ Strength and Sunshine says
Girl, you know I feel the same way. I want reassurance that everything will work out and things will be okay. But yea, there is no way of knowing and the more we stress about it, we are just hurting ourselves and missing out on what we can do and experience now!
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Exactly! Stressing now isn’t going to solve anything.
I think it’s so common to try and figure out your future. But in reality, you’ll never have an idea. You just have to trust and believe in God and know he already has a plan for you. I can guarantee you’ll find someone. You’re beautiful both inside & out.
This made me smile :) My faith is very important to me and with that I know everything will turn out OK.
YES!!!! We are exactly where we are meant to be and have to trust that everything is unfolding exactly the way that it is meant to!!!
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Repeating that to myself daily!
Amanda @ .running with spoons. says
I felt like I had everything mapped out when I was younger, and then that map got ripped up into a million tiny pieces and I’m somewhere completely different than where I thought I’d be right now. No matter what happens, I truly believe that things really do happen for a reason. When you really stop to think about it, there’s SO little we can actually control. We don’t have much of a say when it comes to our circumstances, so the best we can do is work on our attitude and appreciate where we are at any given time… especially because there’s good to be found in everything.
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I believe things happen for a reason, too. Looking back on past events I’ve learned that when I just let things happen, they turn out pretty great. You’re so right, there is good in everything…sometimes I just need to dig deeper.
I am definitely in the same stage as you, Emily! I’m trying to find peace with the unknown and know that it’s okay to not have it all together. All we need to do is go with what feels right. I still worry about getting jobs, a boyfriend, etc. but I think it’s okay not to worry. We only have control over these moments right now!
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The idea that people our age (or any age for that matter) need to “have it all together” is crazy and adds unnecessary pressure!
Mattie @ Comfy & Confident says
I can totally relate. I am always thinking about what the next 5 or so years of my lift will look like, but in all seriousness, you are exactly where you need to be. Do not stress about where you will be going. It will happen with time. Everything works out! Enjoy college and not having a ton of responsibility because once you graduate, things change!!
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Thanks, Mattie! I am very happy with my life now. I just need to soak up this time and not stress about the longterm.
I totally relate to this. I couldn’t have told you 8 months ago that I’d be living in a place I once hated. I never imagined myself working in advertising- I was convinced I was destined to do social media for a health and fitness company. I thought I’d never be happy anywhere except in Boston, close to my family. I never thought I’d have roommates again. I never thought I’d be dating the person I am right now. I saw myself with someone else 2 years ago. I had a long conversation with my mom about this while I was home- and she said “as much as I would love to have you in Boston, I wouldn’t want you anywhere else right now. You have a pretty great setup.”
And the coolest part is- None of these things that I consider to be great about my life right now were planned. I used to roll my eyes when people would tell me to just wait. I couldn’t do it. I was stressed. I cried. I worried. That got me nowhere though and eventually everything fell into place. And I promise it will for you, too :)
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This was everything I needed to hear. I’ve said it before but it’s very comforting to know someone who has gone through similar things and can relay such great advice :)
Rebecca @ MyEagerFeet says
I think it’s totally normal to wonder where your life is going, especially in college! Your post made me reflect that five years ago I had absolutely no clue that I would be an accountant…and it’s okay to not be totally sure where I’ll be in another five years. It sounds like you’re doing all the right things – internships, etc. – so I’m sure you’ll end up somewhere awesome!
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I think I need to turn the worries into excitement for my future. There is so much I can’t control, but so many good possibilities.