Let me start by saying, I love my roommates and I’m so lucky to have them. These are merely my thoughts and reflections.
I come from a healthy but balanced household. Both of my parents eat a variety of food and don’t follow any restrictive diets. I’m by far the most restrictive with my celiac and general pickiness, which I call a “princess-like” quality. Even with my previous roommates I was the odd one being gluten-free. This year, I’m still the odd one…because I’m the only one not on a diet (*excluding gluten-free, obviously).
Both of my roommates have shun carbs of any type. No fruit, sweet potatoes, rice, gluten-free grains, or other carb-like food…even things allowed on a Paleo diet. When they first started their diets they were very vocal about the change. I immediately responded with questions because, let’s be real, we’re all nosy. I asked why they were dieting, insisted they didn’t need to diet, and proclaimed my love of the food they eliminated.
My questions came about instinctively and I reacted as a concerned and interested person. I preached “everything in moderation” thinking my words would change their actions (like they should listen to me or something…). But really, it was my way of being defensive. It’s hard to live and eat with people who unintentionally make you feel like you’re doing something wrong. I’m not necessarily talking about my roommates’ specific diets, but any way of eating for that matter…vegetarian, vegan, Paleo, low-sugar, even gluten-free. It’s almost too easy to compare your diet to that of your friends. Not just easy, but dangerous.
Luckily I’m in a place where I don’t really care that I eat a lot and I know what works for my body. But still, it makes me question if I’m doing things right. Sometimes it’s hard to understand that what works for me, does NOT work for everyone else. Maybe my roommates are just figuring out what works for them. Maybe they plan to follow this diet short-term. Maybe they don’t even see it as a restrictive diet. I don’t really know. But I do know how it feels to be judged by what you eat. People frequently question me for saying no to pizza and have asked why I can’t have just one cookie (trust me I would not be fun to be around if that happened).
Comparison of any kind is a slippery slope, especially when dealing with food. It’s important to remember that happiness and balance is found (I think/hope) when you let go of expectations and live your own life.
How do you deal with comparison?
And because it’s WIAW, I have some food highlights from the last few days. Thanks, Jenn for the link-up!
1) CLEMENTINE SEASON. Pretty soon I’ll be having like 10 a day. Good source of Vitamin C, right?
2) Power Salad. Mixed greens, roasted chicken, avocado, roasted red peppers, tomatoes and brown rice with a honey-mustard dressing.
3) Tuesday’s dinner. Honey mustard chicken, spaghetti squash, zucchini noodles and avocado. All very easy to make and pretty darn tasty.
Happy October 1!