In many ways I am Type A to a T….
-I lose years off my life when I have to wait in a long line or traffic.
-I’m very conscientious.
-I have a very low tolerance for incompetent people
and dumb drivers.
But in many ways I am NOT Type A…
-I sleep really well (apparently many Type A’s have trouble sleeping?).
-I’m a slow walker (apparently Type A’s are also all fast walkers…).
-Relaxing is not hard for me.
-I don’t rely on a to-do list.
-My room/life is not super organized or tidy.
I think Type A’s get all the attention, for better or worse. Heck they make cell phone cases, which I may or may not own, that say “Type A.” Does that mean we/they are “right?” Does that mean we/they can’t have some characteristics on the other side of the spectrum?
While I don’t think we have to full identify with any type (see: Introvert, Extrovert or Ambivert?), I DO think it’s good to be aware of our individual habits, preferences and quirks.
I blame Amanda for encouraging my rambling today ;)
While my habits lean toward Type A, over the last year or so, I’ve noticed a change in some of my perfectionist and extremist tendencies. For example, just last week I texted my mom after one of my final exams and said how little I cared about my grade. I took the exam and went on with my day, something I never could have done in high school or during my freshman year of college. I honestly had a moment where I questioned if something was happening to me…was I now a Type B because I didn’t care about my test? Seriously, those are the random and irrational thoughts I sometimes have. Full disclosure: I ended up getting a solid B on the test…which is NOT bad in the least. Just “different” for me.
Lately, I no longer have a desire to make everything perfect. I’m learning when and where to invest my energy and, honestly, sometimes that means napping instead of a studying for an extra hour. Sometimes that means half-assing or skipping a workout. Sometimes that means working out hard. Sometimes that means turning in an assignment I’m not entirely proud of. I can more easily decipher when to relax on obligations and when to push through. It’s kind of freeing to learn that I can sometimes give 80% instead of 100% and survive (and thrive!).
But this new “philosophy” of mine contradicts all the Pinterest motivational quotes. You know, the ones that say “be all in or get out…there is no halfway.” I used to take those quotes personally…like everyone was directly telling me to work hard 24/7. Kind of overwhelming, right? I think that’s where I’ve loosened up on my Type A desire for perfection. By no means do I believe in not working hard, but I now fall in the camp of learning and managing priorities. Work hard when necessary but know when it’s OK to just get by. Do what you can when you can (#wycwyc!). That sounds too preachy and ideal for my liking but it’s the best happy medium I can come up with for the moment. (Side note: Being “preachy” is my pet peeve so please call me out on it).
My favorite yoga teacher sometimes says “give 80%,” particularly when we are doing locus or bow pose. She says to “try on easy for a change.” Easy doesn’t mean bad. Easy doesn’t mean lazy. It just means recognizing what I can give at that moment…whether it’s my workout, school work, work or personal life. Some days I can give 100%, some days it’s less. The lesser days don’t make me any less of a person, or so I’m learning.
So back to my original topic….No, I haven’t gone Type B. Not that it would be bad, but is it possible? I just seem to be acquiring some Type B qualities that I hope will make me a more relaxed and positive person.
Nevertheless, I’m really proud of some of my Type-A qualities. That drive and motivation? Yeah, I’ll keep that.