I hope you are reading this after a wonderful weekend. This was my 6th weekend in the city and probably the most low-key one so far. I don’t know if any weekend from here on out will be literally “quiet,” but adding in some simple, routine activities will help create some normalcy. I met up with a good friend, went to the gym, slept for a glorious 9 hours, ran some errands, went to church, and did everything I could to not clean my apartment. Eventually I did clean it though. Kind of.
So yeah, six-ish weeks into this new chapter. Five weeks and four days to be exact. When people ask me how I’m doing, I tell them the truth: Some days I cry a lot, some days I don’t. Some days I think, “what the hell did I do?” but others I think, “look where I am!!!”
Really, look where I am!
I posted a similar photo last time but there will be a lot of Freedom Tower photos for the foreseeable future.
Despite how great NYC is (examples below), I didn’t expect a fairytale or an abridged adjustment period. As much as that would be nice and welcomed, wherever you go there you are. So here I am working through a lot of the same things as I was in Florida, just with additional city pressures. I feel like I fall, both metaphorically and literally on the sidewalk, every day. If you feel like you fall too, you aren’t alone. *This is me virtually helping you up*
I’m trying to frame this entire experience as something happening FOR me, not to me. The emotional and physical hard stuff will hopefully make sense and even pay-off one day. Yet for now I’m relying on faith when things get dark. It’s the best tool in my toolbox and I highly recommend it :)
Cue another cool NYC photo.
Switching gears to less emotionally filled highs and lows. I’m happy I moved here in the summer because I’m more inspired to explore and leave my apartment, which is so comfortable and a high-high on my list. Other things from month #1…
High: A weekend trip to Rhode Island
One perk of living in New York is the proximity to extended family in both Rhode Island and Pennsylvania. I took the train up to Rhode Island a few weekends ago and spent at least 11/40 hours sitting by the pool. I was in my happy place! It’s hard to beat New England in the summer.
Low: Transportation fails
I’ve paid for the subway three times only to find out a) it’s not running that day or b) it’s a seriously long delay and pointless to stay. I’ve also paid $15 for a cab to go three blocks when I just COULD NOT walk anymore.
I try my hardest to not Uber (because it’s expensive) and this was the first weekend I succeeded.
High: Visits from family
I love that NYC is a popular travel destination because there always seems to be someone I know in town. I hope they keep coming when it gets really cold because that’s when I’ll need people. I met up with my aunt and uncle who were here around the 4th of July, my cousin came to stay with me for a weekend, and then we met up with other cousins for the World Cup (there are a lot of cousins).
Low: Social media and the comparison trap
I deleted Snapchat. I decided to keep Instagram but instead filter who I follow and how often I go on. I don’t post much (food photos are ehh) and I can sense that too much scrolling isn’t healthy for me right now. It’s a never-ending battle that so many of us face yet we all still buy into it…and clearly some people make a very substantial living from it.
Low: Wearing dress clothes to work
My new job took me in the wrong direction in terms of ideal work attire. I went from jeans to dress pants/skirts/dresses every day. LOFT got lucky with me because I needed a whole new wardrobe.
Sorry for the messy bathroom photo. A nice full-length mirror is on my list!
High: Spending time with friends
I have friends from every stage of life in the city—elementary, middle, high school, college and post-grad. I’ve been able to meet up with a few people so far and I’m really thankful for their company and support. A friendly face makes everything a little less scary.
High: Walking everywhere
I dreamed of living in a place where things were in walking distance, and now I got my wish. Will I regret it in a few months? Maybe. For now I’m loving it, except…
Low: Walking everywhere
Walking is great until it’s not. Until you don’t feel like carrying things or you’re tired or it’s raining or your feet hurt (my foot is still giving me issues). I have moments when I really miss my car.
High: My co-workers
I really love the people I work with, and I’m not just saying that because they know about my blog :) Everyone has been so welcoming and helpful as I get acclimated, both to the job and to NYC.
High: My 100% gluten free kitchen.
This is the first time I’ve had a 100% gluten free kitchen. I want to get a welcome mat that says “leave shoes and gluten outside.” Not having to worry about cross-contamination in a small space is a big relief, and one of the reasons I wanted to get a studio apartment.
I haven’t made any elaborate meals yet. What I’ve lacked in creativity I’ve made up for in salmon though!
I’m missing a few things but I’ll save them up for a future post. This week I have a few evening activities but otherwise I’m looking forward to cooking good food and making small strides toward feeling more settled.
Have a wonderful week!
What’s one high and/or low from your month?