One of my favorite Instagrammer’s/writers, Cassandra Bodzak, posted something earlier this week that struck a chord with me. She wrote about a very popular topic here in blog land…balance. I will never be able to write and convey my thoughts as eloquently as her, but I’m going to try…
How many posts have you read about achieving balance? I’ve read dozens. Hell I’ve written some myself. These posts aren’t bad but, like most things in life, they aren’t one size fits all. Today, I’m not referring to HOW you balance things but WHAT balance LOOKS like for you.
Why do we assume that in order to be “balanced” (or #balanced) we have to splurge on junk food occasionally? Or we have to spend some late nights partying? Or we have to get drunk once in a while? Why do those stereotypes reign supreme?
It’s no secret that I eat very healthy. I’ve been told multiple times that I need to have more, let’s say, “ish” in my healthyish life. More treats, more splurges, more “balance.” Look, I’ve tried the stereotypical balance and, let me tell you, I do NOT feel balanced. I feel sick, rundown and lethargic. So what if my version of a splurge is a night with me, myself and a jar of nut butter? Or a big steak and potato dinner? Or a weekend spent on the couch? Just because those things makes ME feel balanced doesn’t make me disordered, structured or weird. They make me me.
I’ve admittedly judged others for not being what I think is “balanced.” (Like my way is right or something…). I’m done with that. I think as long as someone is happy and healthy (very important), then they deserve to do what makes them feel good. If that balance is running every day, good for them. If it is having dessert every night, awesome. If it is eating strict Paleo, great. If it is a big glass of wine after a long day, perfect. We should not shame what makes others happy.
My balance is not your balance and your balance is not mine.
I recognize and understand the counter argument. I do not think it’s healthy to claim balance if you really aren’t physically and mentally healthy in your current lifestyle. But that’s not something I’m going to discuss today.
Finding that happy, balanced place isn’t easy, and I don’t know if I’ll ever fully get there. In the meantime, I refuse to succumb to societal pressures and pre-conceived notions anymore. You do you, I’ll do me and we’ll get along just fine.