Why do we feel the need to always justify our choices?
When we don’t exercise we tell people it’s because we worked out 5 days in a row and deserve a rest day.
When we eat an extra serving at dinner we explain that we ate a small lunch so we deserve more food.
When we sit on the couch for more than 20 minutes we feel the need to tell everyone HOW BUSY we are and that we deserve a little break.
For all of those things, and more, we don’t need to explain our actions. More than that, we shouldn’t feel guilty for them.
A rest day doesn’t need explanation.
Eating more at dinner doesn’t need an explanation.
Sitting on the couch and being lazy (gasp!) doesn’t need an explanation.
We think everyone else is always go-go-go (or in my case, study-study-study), that if we aren’t following in suit, we’re doing something wrong. Especially during the holiday season when everyone is “OMG so busy,” we find the need to explain why we had a lazy or quiet weekend. Who the heck cares that we chose to sit on the couch for most of Sunday? Being busy doesn’t get you a gold star, so we shouldn’t feel guilty for taking some time to ourselves.
Life isn’t a competition of who is most productive or who ate the healthiest. I’m very guilty of feeling the need to justify my actions (just check previous workout posts and you can see that I explain my rest days). Especially with blogging, explaining why I do or don’t do things seems like part of the “story telling” process. But it doesn’t always have to be. Sure some days justification is natural and necessary, but for most of our “healthy living” based actions, we shouldn’t need to defend ourselves. We should just remain accountable for our actions.
This is something I’m working on in all aspects of my life. Not feeling the need to justify to my roommate why I was still in sweats at noon on a Saturday, or why I was eating straight out of a jar of peanut butter. Not feeling the need to justify to MYSELF why I didn’t run or workout one day…or two days…or three days. I can take a rest day just because I feel like it. That is enough explanation.
We seek the approval of people around us for our choices, when really, our opinion is the only one that matters. Being busy doesn’t make you a better or more productive person. Working out every day doesn’t make you superior. Be confident in your actions and live YOUR life.
Do you explain your choices to people? In the blog world and/or real life?