Extroverts: gain energy from being with people; loud, outgoing
Introverts: gain energy by spending time alone; shy, private
That’s it, right?
For a long time that’s what I believed. I thought that because I had mostly introverted qualities that was my label. I’m private, have a small group of friends and like spending time alone. I took that “label” to heart and started using it as an excuse for things. But I hate labels, especially ones that aren’t fully inclusive of my personality. Because I like spending time alone does it mean I always want to do that? No. Like most things in life, personalities aren’t black and white. So where is the gray area in this case?
The other day I came across a Buzzfeed article and learned a new word: ambivert. Coincidentally, Sarah posted the article on Twitter later. I swear we are mind twins.
I found myself nodding along in agreement to many points on the Buzzfeed list. Why did it take so long for this to become recognized personality type? Guess what, most people are ambiverts. Even if some psychologists and spellcheck don’t recognize it, ambiverts are real. We like being social but we also like our quiet time. We may not be the craziest person at the party but we are outgoing in our own ways.
Case in point…I spent all day Saturday in my apartment doing homework and watching Netflix. I got lonely antsy and spent most of Sunday out with friends. Balance. While I might go through social and anti-social phases, I’m learning to find that happy medium.
I think many people assume that most bloggers are introverts because, well, we have virtual friends and talk to a computer. But to write a variety of posts we need experience, relationships, activities with others.
I don’t think you need a personality test to know who you are. Whenever we take these tests we do some self-evaluation and recognize things we like and dislike about ourselves. That being said, instead of picking apart your personality, focus on understanding what makes you unique. Learning how you best interact with others can help you grow personally and professionally.
If you take a test and the results aren’t accurate, don’t sweat it. Take the results with a grain of salt. If nothing else, it’s a good distraction from real work ;)
*End of random thoughts.
Where do you fall on the personality spectrum?