Valentine’s Day has never been my favorite holiday, but I’m not against it either. I’m not one of those people who gags at the sight of romantic gestures or throws anti-Valentine’s Day parties. I’m not one who dismisses the holiday and says “everyday is Valentine’s Day,” but I agree that showing and giving love should be a daily thing.
Whether you’re single (hand-raised) or have a significant other, we all have relationships. Family, friends, co-workers, classmates, running buddies, etc. Yet the one we often dismiss or neglect is the relationship with ourselves. Guilty as charged.
Thanks to Amanda for hosting this awesome link-up and letting me
ramble Think Out Loud.
I’ve gotten better over the years but I still struggle with treating myself fairly and lovingly. Meaning, I sometimes judge myself. I sometimes criticize myself. I don’t give myself enough credit for things and I compare myself to others.
Treating yourself in a loving way is more than exercising and eating healthy, although those are extremely important. We have to nurture the whole person. Our minds, spirits and passions. It sounds dramatic but stay with me…
Would you judge your friend the way you judge yourself? Would you think less of a friend who took a “mental health” day and stayed on the couch instead of going to work and/or working out? Would you dismiss a friend’s accomplishment as luck rather than handwork? No, no and no.
Then why do we do those things to ourselves? Why do I do those things to myself?
I wish I knew that answer.
I’m learning to give myself a break. I don’t have to be the best but instead MY best…whatever “best” may mean that day. I don’t feel guilty for “indulging” in the things I like. I try to carve out “me time” to do the activities I want, which some days involve napping.
This Valentine’s Day, along with appreciating your loved ones with love, show YOURSELF some love. Buy that special Starbucks drink you always crave but don’t order, take a walk to get some Vitamin D, buy flowers for your table, sit in silence and let your mind wander, watch your favorite trashy television show or cook yourself a delicious dinner. Remind yourself that you’re awesome (because you are).
Whatever you do, do it with love and do it for you.
How do you show yourself love?
Valentine’s Day..love or hate?