Treat Yourself Like Your Valentine

Valentine’s Day has never been my favorite holiday, but I’m not against it either. I’m not one of those people who gags at the sight of romantic gestures or throws anti-Valentine’s Day parties. I’m not one who dismisses the holiday and says “everyday is Valentine’s Day,” but I agree that showing and giving love should be a daily thing.

Whether you’re single (hand-raised) or have a significant other, we all have relationships. Family, friends, co-workers, classmates, running buddies, etc. Yet the one we often dismiss or neglect is the relationship with ourselves. Guilty as charged.

Thanks to Amanda for hosting this awesome link-up and letting me ramble Think Out Loud.



I’ve gotten better over the years but I still struggle with treating myself fairly and lovingly. Meaning, I sometimes judge myself. I sometimes criticize myself. I don’t give myself enough credit for things and I compare myself to others.

Treating yourself in a loving way is more than exercising and eating healthy, although those are extremely important. We have to nurture the whole person. Our minds, spirits and passions. It sounds dramatic but stay with me…


Valentine’s Day themed sushi <3

Would you judge your friend the way you judge yourself? Would you think less of a friend who took a “mental health” day and stayed on the couch instead of going to work and/or working out? Would you dismiss a friend’s accomplishment as luck rather than handwork? No, no and no.

Then why do we do those things to ourselves? Why do I do those things to myself? 

I wish I knew that answer.

I’m learning to give myself a break. I don’t have to be the best but instead MY best…whatever “best” may mean that day. I don’t feel guilty for “indulging” in the things I like. I try to carve out “me time” to do the activities I want, which some days involve napping.



This Valentine’s Day, along with appreciating your loved ones with love, show YOURSELF some love. Buy that special Starbucks drink you always crave but don’t order, take a walk to get some Vitamin D, buy flowers for your table, sit in silence and let your mind wander, watch your favorite trashy television show or cook yourself a delicious dinner. Remind yourself that you’re awesome (because you are).

Whatever you do, do it with love and do it for you.

How do you show yourself love?

Valentine’s or hate?


  1. Krystal says

    Great concept Emily! I agree with you, I don’t love Valentine’s Day yet I don’t hate it either. I like to show myself love by getting a massage once a month or indulging in that scrumptious dessert every once in a while when out to dinner with friends.
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  2. Rebecca @ Strength and Sunshine says

    We are all hard on ourselves sometimes! We will always be, but that’s okay! As long as we love ourselves (more) of the time! I like V-Day! I think it’s sweet even if you don’t have a romantic partner!
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  3. pickyrunner says

    I’m not a huge fan of Valentine’s Day (this is technically the first time I’ve been in a relationship for it) but I agree that it’s a great holiday to focus on loving yourself. That’s the most important person you can love and it’s the one we overlook the most. I just don’t think we need a holiday to buy random presents, but I’ll never turn down the chocolate ;)
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  4. Brie @ Lean, Clean, & Brie says

    I think it is so important to show ourselves love, and Valentine’s day is the perfect time to be reminded of. I definitely planning on indulging in some chocolate and doing things I enjoy. Loved this post Emily!
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  5. Amanda @ .running with spoons. says

    Great post, girl! I’m neither here nor there with Valentine’s Day either, but I love what you said about treating yourself as kindly as you treat other people. I’m definitely a lot harder on myself than I am on other people, and while I’ve gotten better at it over the years, it’s still a constant work in progress… but at least we’re going in the right direction :)
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  6. Melanie says

    My hubby and I do not celebrate Valentine’s Day. We never had. Seems so clichè and we make a point of loving and treating each other nicely all year not just one day because we’re supposed to. We celebrate Feb 13th, our dating anniversary instead. :)
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  7. Emily @ Sweets and Beets says

    Love it! Last year on Valentine’s Day, I instagrammed a quote that was similar — “you have to remember to love yourself first.” PS – holller for being single on Vday! I don’t resent it or anything, and I’m having Palentine’s Day with a girlfriend! : )
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  8. Ellen @ My Uncommon Everyday says

    I can take or leave Valentine’s Day, but I am all for treating yourself as kindly as you would treat a friend! And, admittedly, that’s something I’m working on!
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  9. Pragati // Simple Medicine says

    I don’t mind VDay; growing up my mom always made it special so I associate it more with love than a relationship. It can be hard to treat yourself as a friend. I know I struggle with that too!
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  10. Lauren says

    Such a great message. I mention something similar in my blog post for day! There aren’t enough reasons to celebrate love in the world!
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